What A Slut

By Autumn Morris

What is a slut? Someone who has a lot of sex? Someone who enjoys a lot of sex? Someone who has several previous sexual partners? Or even someone who dresses like they want sex?

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Wrong. If you google “slut”, it actually tells you that it’s specifically a woman who has a lot of sex. A foul term thrown around to belittle a female for indulging in sexual pleasure. While I could write an entire piece on exactly how screwed up and sexist the term “slut” is, I’d like to focus on something else.

Having a considerable amount of sex is not a bad thing. It does not make you a slut or a whore, or any other negative word you can think of. As long as you are satisfied and safe with your partners and your partners are satisfied and feel safe with you, then get it on, boo! However, having several sexual partners can get risky if you are not taking the proper precautions to ensure your safety. Society assumes that someone who is having a lot of sex must be “dirty”. No honey! You can have your cake and eat it too. Pleasure, safety, and cleanliness are not mutually exclusive.

Society views women as houses. The more people that come in and out the house, the dirtier the house gets. However, the “house” theory is inaccurate and inapplicable. Someone who has had 20 partners can have the same sexual health as someone who has had one sexual partner as long as you stay on your health.  And you already know how to do that: wrap it up and get tested. Duh! Too easy.

When entertaining multiple sexual partners, it is important to not only get tested frequently but ensure you are using reliable protection. This shields you from whatever your partner may have contracted, and it inhibits you from spreading any infections as well. Additionally, having multiple sexual partners and not using protection increases your chance of contracting other infections such as BV (bacterial vaginosis). These infections aren’t passed from one person to the another but are rooted from pH imbalances caused by multiple/different partners. To avoid all of this, go for a condom, a dental dam, or a diaphragm (female condom).

Your sexual health is 100% in your hands. Being in control of your health takes the power and any standing validity away from the word “slut”. You’re using protection so your body is safe and your pH is popping so what can be said now? (Not to mention protection is a form of layering, which we learned about last week!)

I don’t care how many people you bring to your bedroom. You deserve pleasure, you deserve to explore your sexuality, and you deserve to do whatever you like with your body. Society views someone with multiple partners as dirty or less than, but having sex doesn’t mean you aren’t in control of your health. So, use condoms, get tested, and have fun.